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I remember  the feeling like it was yesterday. My husband and I, wide-eyed newlyweds with a spirit for adventure, checked our bags and triple-checked our paperwork. In a short time, we would be taxiing the runway at O’Hare, headed over the Atlantic on our honeymoon where we would immerse ourselves in the local culture by road-tripping through Germany, France, Italy, and Switzerland.

What began as a trip destined for romance and wanderlust turned into my first taste of complete freedom and total relaxation. Somewhere between the coast of Italy and the mountains of Germany, I sank into the passenger seat and realized that this was the first time – ever – in my adult life where I gave myself permission to be fully present. No itinerary to blast through. No diet to adhere to. No devices to mindlessly scroll through. I threw rigid expectations and hyper-vigilant habits to the wind in favor of embracing an entirely foreign new pace of life, if only for these next two weeks.

This trip was the first time I’d ever seen such lush backdrops and scenic drives, but it was also the first time I’d witnessed myself in my own element. I was experiencing my true self for the first time, stripped of the need to push, power through, and prove something; to do more; to reach and strive for that elusive image of ‘better’ I had promised myself was waiting for me. Like the locals we met through our travels, I began developing intentional habits that re-routed me back to what I had lost in the hot pursuit of what I told myself I needed to be all along. I began savoring my food, indulging when it felt right. I found myself breathing more deeply, slowing down the never-ending wheel of anxious thought patterns that kept me feeling frantic back home. Counterintuitively, everything that I had resisted stateside was everything I needed to realize my true potential for being, not doing.

What felt like freedom was actually an escape from my own expectations, my first real exhale, and the first steps towards evangelizing the same liberation I experienced overseas.

I bet you know exactly what it feels like to chase and be chased by “perfect”. It’s motivating and soul-crushing all at once, a strict form of piety that keeps you feeling hungry, scarce, and small. If you just cross one more thing off your list, add one more bullet to your resume, or say ‘no’ to one more indulgence, you’ll finally reach blissful alignment, expansion, enlightenment. When the feeling never follows? You deem yourself defective somehow, and set new goals to aim higher than before, determined to achieve what’s just out of reach. It’s cyclical and it’s damaging to our minds, our bodies, and our relationships.

Now, more than ever, women are dominating the field at home and at work. While we’re finding ourselves in new positions of power…we’re also making ourselves less of a priority. We close the sale, but we forget to eat breakfast. We stay up all night to meet deadlines, but shrug off our own need to sleep. After all, what is success if it isn’t earned running ourselves ragged?

You can find a path to success that doesn’t take a toll on your health and happiness along the way. I’ve done it myself. I can show you how, too.

Since the trip-that-changed-everything, I’ve returned home determined to help women escape the feelings of perfection, anxiety, and obsessive thinking that I knew too well. As a Certified Holistic Health Coach (CHHC) and life coach, I teach sustainable strategies for investing in rest, healing, and long-term health, guiding women towards the balance between success and self-care – and helping them protect that balance no matter how unpredictable or chaotic life may get.

Let caring for yourself be a choice, not a chore.

Learning how to give yourself what you need, when you need it, knowing exactly why you need it is easier than you think. My FREE guide is packed with expert tools, tips, and resources to help you become more self-aware...so you can define your own version of self-care.

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For the highs and lows
And moments in between,
Mountains and valleys
And rivers and streams.
For where you are now
And where you will go,
For “I’ve always known”
And “I told you so,”
For “nothing is happening”
And “All has gone wrong,”
It’s here in this journey
You will learn to be strong
You will get where you’re going,
Landing where you belong.”
—Morgan Harper Nichols
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📸: @mija_mija
Ok friends. Tomorrow is my LAST day of this 3 week cleanse. I’m most looking forward to breakfast bc that’s my favorite meal of the day. I love it all but if I had to pick it’d be biscuits and gravy. Hands down. Second best is bacon and eggs on top of lettuce with avocado and homemade garlic aioli.  What’s your favorite breakfast food? And if you say you don’t eat breakfast, I’m afraid we can’t be friends. Haha I’m only slightly kidding😉
Few things in life are truly final, which is why perfectionism is a script that doesn’t fit who we are or ever feel right.✨It goes against what life truly is – a practice. We practice to not only make mistakes and learn from them, but to make mistakes and love ourselves in spite of them.😘
📸: @paigebabilla
Seems like yesterday we sold our condo in the city and moved into this cozy home in the suburbs. But then in a weird way it feels like we’ve lived here forever. The way the stairs creak and the front door takes a bit of a wiggle to lock. It’s perfectly imperfect in every way. I’m slowly realizing it’s less about the stuff you fill it with and more about the quality of life lived and memories made inside these 4 walls...
You don't have to be the best.
You only have to be yourself.
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You only have to be real.
And speak from the heart.
And know that you have the right
to see how you see,
and think how you think,
and feel what you feel,
and desire what you desire.
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You don't have to be a success
in the eyes of the world
and you don't have to be an expert.
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You only have to offer what you offer,
breathe how you breathe,
make mistakes and fuck up and
learn to love your stumbling and
say the wrong thing and stop
worrying so much about 
impressing anyone,
because in the end you
only have to live with yourself,
and joy is not given but found
in the deepest recesses of your being,
so there can be joy in falling 
and joy in making mistakes
and joy in making a fool of yourself
and joy in forgetting joy
and then holding yourself as you crumble 
to the ground and weep out 
the old dreams.
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Joy is closeness 
with the one you love:
You.
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You don't have to be the best.
You don't have to win.
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You only have to remember
this intimacy with 
the sky, the nearness of the
mountains and feel the warmth 
of the sun on your face 
and know that you are alive,
and that you are a success,
and victorious,
without having to prove 
a damn 
thing.
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- Jeff Foster
How do you protect your peace?🌊The most important practice I’ve learned over the years is how to set healthy boundaries. It’s helped me protect my time and space so I can allow more calm and rest into my life. Looking forward to a slow weekend. Cheers to less obligations and more time.✌🏼