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I remember  the feeling like it was yesterday. My husband and I, wide-eyed newlyweds with a spirit for adventure, checked our bags and triple-checked our paperwork. In a short time, we would be taxiing the runway at O’Hare, headed over the Atlantic on our honeymoon where we would immerse ourselves in the local culture by road-tripping through Germany, France, Italy, and Switzerland.

What began as a trip destined for romance and wanderlust turned into my first taste of complete freedom and total relaxation. Somewhere between the coast of Italy and the mountains of Germany, I sank into the passenger seat and realized that this was the first time – ever – in my adult life where I gave myself permission to be fully present. No itinerary to blast through. No diet to adhere to. No devices to mindlessly scroll through. I threw rigid expectations and hyper-vigilant habits to the wind in favor of embracing an entirely foreign new pace of life, if only for these next two weeks.

This trip was the first time I’d ever seen such lush backdrops and scenic drives, but it was also the first time I’d witnessed myself in my own element. I was experiencing my true self for the first time, stripped of the need to push, power through, and prove something; to do more; to reach and strive for that elusive image of ‘better’ I had promised myself was waiting for me. Like the locals we met through our travels, I began developing intentional habits that re-routed me back to what I had lost in the hot pursuit of what I told myself I needed to be all along. I began savoring my food, indulging when it felt right. I found myself breathing more deeply, slowing down the never-ending wheel of anxious thought patterns that kept me feeling frantic back home. Counterintuitively, everything that I had resisted stateside was everything I needed to realize my true potential for being, not doing.

What felt like freedom was actually an escape from my own expectations, my first real exhale, and the first steps towards evangelizing the same liberation I experienced overseas.

I bet you know exactly what it feels like to chase and be chased by “perfect”. It’s motivating and soul-crushing all at once, a strict form of piety that keeps you feeling hungry, scarce, and small. If you just cross one more thing off your list, add one more bullet to your resume, or say ‘no’ to one more indulgence, you’ll finally reach blissful alignment, expansion, enlightenment. When the feeling never follows? You deem yourself defective somehow, and set new goals to aim higher than before, determined to achieve what’s just out of reach. It’s cyclical and it’s damaging to our minds, our bodies, and our relationships.

Now, more than ever, women are dominating the field at home and at work. While we’re finding ourselves in new positions of power…we’re also making ourselves less of a priority. We close the sale, but we forget to eat breakfast. We stay up all night to meet deadlines, but shrug off our own need to sleep. After all, what is success if it isn’t earned running ourselves ragged?

You can find a path to success that doesn’t take a toll on your health and happiness along the way. I’ve done it myself. I can show you how, too.

Since the trip-that-changed-everything, I’ve returned home determined to help women escape the feelings of perfection, anxiety, and obsessive thinking that I knew too well. As a Certified Holistic Health Coach (CHHC) and life coach, I teach sustainable strategies for investing in rest, healing, and long-term health, guiding women towards the balance between success and self-care – and helping them protect that balance no matter how unpredictable or chaotic life may get.

Let caring for yourself be a choice, not a chore.

Learning how to give yourself what you need, when you need it, knowing exactly why you need it is easier than you think. My FREE guide is packed with expert tools, tips, and resources to help you become more self-aware...so you can define your own version of self-care.

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How often do you say "I wish I had more time for myself!" or "I don't have time for that" or "I'm SO busy".
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And it's probably true that your plate is full but when it comes to designing our lives we hold the power to decide what and who we want to spend our energy on.
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So before you make the assertion that you don't have time to workout or finish reading that book that's been collecting dust, you’ve got to understand what you’re trading off when you tell yourself “I Don’t Have Time”.
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If you say you don't have time to eat healthy, it's an issue of priorities not time. So ask yourself this important question.
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👉🏼How is my time REALLY being spent and what are my priorities?👈🏼
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